Whether you’re a caregiver, friend, or family member of someone with ulcerative colitis (UC), your support means the world to them. UC does more than send your loved one to the bathroom — it affects them mentally and physically in other ways, too. If you don’t have UC, it can be difficult to relate to what you’re loved one is going through, so here we’re sharing 10 meaningful ways you can support them.
Don’t Get Upset Every Time That They Cancel Plans
There’s going to be more than one occasion where your loved one is going to cancel plans on you. Sometimes in advance and other times right at the last minute. When this happens, don’t take it personally. Your loved one wants to spend time with you, but their UC can make that difficult. It’s never personal when they cancel on you. It can get tiring after a while, but try to remain calm and be understanding if plans fall through. Let them know you understand and hope you can see them next time.
Offer to Help Take Them to Any Procedures or Appointments
Taking your loved one to an appointment or a procedure is a fantastic way to support them. Many times, procedures for UC won’t allow the patient to transport themselves home alone afterward, and they could really use a ride. Being present at appointments, whether it’s going into the appointment with them, or just being there for moral support in the waiting room, can help alleviate a ton of stress for your loved one.
Plan a Night In
If your going out plans got canceled, planning a night in with your loved one can be just the right medicine. Those with UC love a good night in, curled up on the couch in a comfy blanket, with a heating pad and good company. You could plan to watch movies, catch up on shows, or just sit around and talk. Throw on your comfiest clothes, grab a pillow or two, and maybe pick up a snack or favorite beverage for a night in.
Send Them Notes of Encouragement When They Least Expect It
If you know that you’re loved one is really struggling with their UC, send them a note of encouragement. Whether that’s a simple text message saying, “Hey, I’m thinking about you,” or an actual note, it can make a world of difference for your loved one. Sometimes, people with UC struggle just to feel like themselves. Knowing that they’re in your thoughts can help bolster their confidence and make them feel a little more loved.
Listen and Be Present
Most of the time, your loved one with UC needs someone to vent to. It’s important to listen to them so they can air their grievances with the disease. When they are venting, be present. Offer words of support where you can. Sometimes, your loved one just needs to vent to get their upset off their chest. Make sure you actively listen and help justify their feelings. They may not want you to offer solutions or give advice — rather, saying “I’m sorry you’re going through this” can be enough.
